In a culture which exalts ‘feminism’, we have completely lost our moorings. No longer do the majority of women, even Christian women (or men), understand how a Christian woman is to look. As Lydia Shanks put it in her article “Courageous Femininity”, published in May’s Next Webzine, there are two extremes.
At one extreme we find the woman who is “passive apathetic, and reclusive. . .cower[ing] in fear, unwilling to serve with passion because she somehow thinks that service is always best left to the men. . .” At the other is the woman “whose faith and life are oppressive, suspicious and egotistical. . .she wants her way, right away and leaves no room for others to lead or serve.”
It can be extremely instructive to study the lives of biblical women. Many people have studied and gleaned valuable insight from well-known biblical characters: Sarah, Esther, Ruth, and Mary. We would do well to observe these women, study their lives, and seek to emulate the good and avoid the bad. However, even lesser known biblical characters can teach us much.
Lydia is one example. The Bible contains only three verses which refer to her (Acts 16:14-15, 40). Here we read,
“Now a certain woman named Lydia heard us. She was a seller of purple from the city of Thyatira, who worshiped God. The Lord opened her heart to heed the things spoken by Paul. And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us, saying, “If you have judged me to be faithful to the Lord, come to my house and stay.” So she persuaded us. . .So they went out of the prison and entered the house of Lydia; and when they had seen the brethren, they encouraged them and departed.”There is much we can learn - both directly and from inference - about this woman even though only three verses are given to her story.Lydia is a woman’s woman. She lived a life most modern feminists would envy, yet she did so as a godly woman. Lydia Shanks called her position one of “courageous femininity” the ability to “serve with both passion and humility; speak with both boldness and self-control; lead with confidence and gentleness.”
What does this look like? Let’s let Lydia, the seller of purple, show us.
What can we know about Lydia?
1) She was a seller of purple (also called ‘turkey-red’)
2) She was from Thyatira, Asia’s center of commerce3) She worshiped God even before her conversion
4) The Lord opened her heart to Paul’s teaching
5) She was extremely hospitable
6) She had a house in Philippi
7) She was a founding member of the Philippian church - a church which was Paul’s “joy and crown” (Phil 1:18)
This is a fairly short list, yet we observe some obvious characteristics. First we see Lydia was a single woman. Single? That struck me as unique - and it was probably even more unique in her day. Yet, there is no mention, anywhere, of Lydia having a husband.Thus we see a single woman who is an extremely successful business owner. She is a seller of purple. In other words, she sold the most rare cloth in the land - the cloth of royalty. She was not only a ‘sales-woman’, she was selling a product to the highest levels of her society.
Furthermore while the text tells us Lydia was from Thyatira, she had a home and staff in Philippi. This suggests she was not only ‘a’ seller of purple, she was an extremely successful seller of purple. In other words, Lydia was most likely a wealthy woman.
Thus we see Lydia was a wealthy, single woman. However, her wealth did not appear to have been given to her. Not by right of birth. Not by right of inheritance. Apparently by right of her industrious nature, Lydia was a well to do lady. Furthermore, we are told she had a ‘household’. Thus she not only managed a business, she managed a large home. Obviously she was not only industrious, she had leadership qualities too.
Lydia was single, wealthy, industrious, and a leader. However, unlike the feminist of today who would, most likely, consider she had earned her right to be waited upon, Lydia was also a servant. This woman did not content herself with reaching the pinnacle of success. Once there she stooped to serve others. This makes her amazing.
Notice verse 15. Whether you read it in the KJV, NKJV, RSV, or the ESV the message is clear. She ‘begged, urged, besought’ Paul and his companions to come stay at her house. Step back and look at this. We have a single woman inviting FOUR men to stay to her house (Paul, Silas, Timothy, and Luke). Furthermore, there is not the slightest hint she thought first about the condition of her home, the food in her larder, or the plans she had for the following days or weeks. The text says, “And when she and her household were baptized, she begged us. . .”
Thus we see Lydia was extremely hospitable. She obviously put the comfort of others ahead of her own agenda, her own plans, her own needs. And, lest we attribute darker motives to her inviting four men to her home, there is absolutely NOTHING in the text to support such suppositions. Clearly she was a woman with a servant’s heart who saw a need and stepped in to meet it.
So we see a single, wealthy, industrious woman with leadership qualities but a servant’s heart. Now, however, we get to the important issue. Lydia was also a ‘worshiper of God.’ She was a worshiper before she was converted. Thus, from her viewpoint we would call her a ‘serious seeker’, yet a peek behind the scenes shows us the ‘hound of heaven’ is on her tail. God is working in her heart, and, with the arrival of Paul, she finds the answers she is seeking.
Lydia’s combination of leadership qualities and a servants heart make her an ideal example for Christian women of today. Lydia knew how to administer a household, run a business, and make money. No doubt, even in her day, she was considered a successful woman. She was courageous. She was self-motivated. She was organized. She was a go-getter. However, she was still a woman. She did not consider it beneath her to serve. She did not need to be in the front and center of everything which was happening. How can I be so sure? There are at least two ‘proofs’ in the text.
One - she met with the women at the riverside to pray, but it nowhere suggests she was a leader in this group. She appears to just be ‘one of the women’.
Two - she was an influential founding member of the Philippian church. However, when Paul wrote to Philippi ten years later, unlike almost every other letter he wrote, there are virtually no admonitions. This church was healthy. It was growing. It was running as a biblically designed church should run. In other words, Lydia had obviously not pushed to be a leader even though she had great leadership skills and was a ‘charter’ member.
What can we learn from this woman’s life?
1) Hospitality is commendable whether one is single or married. While it is our tendency to wait until . . ., Lydia did not wait. There is no discernable passage of time between her conversion and baptism and her invitation to Paul and his companions.
2) If we are hospitable, we often feel we have done our duty if we have someone over once a month or once very two or three months. However, Lydia shows us a woman who appears to have had at least some of Paul’s group in her house for a period of time. Then she stepped it up and apparently offered her home as a gathering place for the entire new Philippian church.
3) Scripture does NOT say women are to be simpering wimps in the background, never thinking a thought of their own making, never attempting anything without male oversight. While a married woman is to obey her husband, as long has he is not opposed to her plans, she ought to seek to be industrious.
This, of course, does not mean she has to have an outside job. That is another lie our culture has sold the church. However, if her responsibilities at home and to God are not being compromised, there is no reason a woman ‘can’t’ have an outside job. Lydia and the Proverbs 31 woman both make this clear.
4) This last point is probably the hardest one for people today to understand. Strong women can be lead. This is a two-pronged issue. A strong woman’s husband must not feel intimidated by his wife’s skills and abilities. As his wife, if she is fulfilling her proper role, her strengths can be funneled into channels which benefit the entire family.
On the other hand, a strong woman can be lead if she is willing to embrace her biblical role as a woman. Lydia is the perfect example of a biblically strong woman. She was strong yet she did not feel the need to usurp authority which did not belong to her. She was strong yet she was obviously content to take a supportive role.
Lydia Shanks put it quite succinctly when she said, “Somewhere between our culture’s flimsy image of femininity and its brazen promotion of feminism, we have lost sight of God’s courageous, humble call for how Christian women are to live.” May we see, in Lydia’s example, the blueprint for a strong, humble, fully Christian woman.