Jun 30 2009
Majoring On The Minors?
Do you have non-Christian friends? Friends who do not share your Christian beliefs, but with whom you share a friendship? If you are like everyone I know, the answer is ‘yes’. Maybe only a few, but most likely you could name dozens who are at least casual acquaintances. People with whom you can carry on a friendly conversation. People with whom you work or play or socialize. People who matter to you to some degree or another. And, I hope, people for whose salvation you are praying!
What about Christian friends of other denominations? Do you have friends and acquaintances who belong to other ‘Christian’ denominations? Are you good friends (as contrasted to mere acquaintances) with people from other denominations? If so, good. If not, why not?
You might say, ‘Doctrine divides.’ This catch phrase has taken the blame for many church splits. It has been given the responsibility for the parting of friendships. In fact, in many churches (particularly, possibly, in America) we have thrown off doctrine in order to keep unity. However, is this true? Does doctrine divide? Should we cast it aside?
While my intention is not to delve deeply into this subject, I was thinking about the irony revealed by our friendships (or lack of). I believe God has used my living in a remote location to begin to teach me an old but important and often overlooked truth. We should and ought to have a variety of friends (or at least acquaintances). Furthermore, we should and ought to be speaking of the One who must be first and foremost in our thoughts.
I suspect your first response is: That is an oxymoron. If I talk to my non-Christian friends about God, it will end that friendship! Worse yet, if I talk to my Christian friends from other denominations about God, that friendship will blow apart!
While we have all seen both of these scenarios played out numerous times, is this really the ultimate answer or is it merely an excuse? I would suggest it is often more of an excuse than the answer. Granted, charging into a conversation like a hellfire and brimstone preacher with a bee in our bonnet is sure to stir things up in a negative way.
What, then, does this reveal? Our first problem is our attitude. All too often we lack humility. We plow ahead, always assuming we are right, never giving the other person an audience. We are either silent or we ‘preach’ at our non-Christian friends. We either avoid Christianity altogether, or we head right for our differences. Why?
What is the purpose behind developing friendships with non-Christians and Christians from other denominations? Are we not to be a witness to the world? Furthermore, unless you are actually proud enough to believe only those who hold to your doctrinal position will enter the pearly gates, we are going to spend eternity with a lot of people we considered ‘questionable’ here on earth.
My point: the devil has attacked the church (I am using this term to speak of the body of Christ, in general, not one specific denomination) for years by causing us to major on the minors. In other words, we focus on our differences, not what we have in common. I am not saying we should all unite - throwing off our differences for the sake of unity. I am saying we should be willing to sit down with open Bibles and talk about the One we both claim to serve. I am saying we should seek to find common ground, not focus on our differences.
Why? Because the world is watching. Think about it. What does the world see? Does it see Christians who are united by a common love for and commitment to their God? Or, do we too often look like a group of children on the playground squabbling over who gets to ‘go first’ instead of playing the game?
Has tossing doctrine out the window decreased church splits? No. Actually, according to some statistics (and I might add the liberal media’s delight), they have increased. In other words, it isn’t doctrine which divides. Truth be known, in many church splits it is probably pride which divides.
So, while doctrine can divide, it is not the villain we have made it out to be. Far too often we stumble over our pride, not the truths of Scripture. However, this does not mean we should toss out our Bibles. In fact, the friendships I cherish most (regardless of the friend’s denomination) are those in which I feel the most free to talk about God.
A few years back there was an attempt to unite the Catholic and Protestant churches. Many Protestants (and possibly a few Catholics, as well) watched in disbelief. How could two major ‘denominations’ throw aside their glaring differences and unite? What would such a unity do to the true faith? One problem with this proposed unification was its failure to recognize some major differences in essential doctrine.
Your friendship with non-Christians proves something. At the very least it proves you can be friends with people who do not hold to the same doctrinal truths to which you cling. However, if we are doing what we should be doing, we are also seeking to point our non-Christians friends to the truth.
I believe it is here the line is drawn in the sand. As Christians we must be very clear what makes up the essentials of our faith. What, then, must we, as Christians, hold to with both hands - refusing to compromise? Once we have answered this question, all other points become things which we can and should be willing to discuss with open Bibles. These are points which should be open for discussion amongst our friends of other denominations. If they aren’t, perhaps we are majoring on the minors?
What are the essentials of the faith? There are at least three areas which are essential to our faith.
Who is God?
Are the entire Scriptures the word of God - thus completely trustworthy and authoritative?
How is a man made right before God?
While I am willing to admit there may be other essentials which fall outside these three broad categories, these make it clear there are also many areas which are non-essentials. Things like immersion versus sprinkling (baptism), or the end times, or church government. These things do matter! That is why I am saying we should be sitting down with open Bibles and a desire to understand and know the truth, but they should NOT be things which divide us to the point of keeping us from developing friendships with Christians from outside our own ‘denomination’ - or cause us to keep these friendships always on the superficial level. After all, if we can maintain solid friendships with non-believers, why not with fellow believers - our ‘brothers’ and ‘sisters’ in Christ?
I admit, I am still thinking through this. However, as I mentioned above, God has brought many people into my life - very few from my own denomination. And, while I feel a comradery and a deeper (perhaps quicker) union of heart as well as a freedom to speak with those with whom I have the most in common, I am learning to be ‘all things to all people.’ In other words, I am learning to swallow my pride and stretch my comfort zone to include conversations and relationships with those with whom I don’t see eye-to-eye - while maintaining (and, Lord willing, deepening) my understanding and commitment to those essential doctrines of Scripture.